things your mother never told you
May 01, 2014
We don't care if you've read What to Expect, A
Girlfriend's Guide, BabyCenter and every blog on pregnancy and
motherhood (actually we do, good for you), no one tells you how
becoming a mother will change everything. And we mean
A mother among us came across an article while she was pregnant
that said having kids would even change the way you shower. Shower?
How many ways can you shower? But it's true. Sometimes you forget
if you've used conditioner because you're busting a move to get out
of the shower before your baby wakes up, or crawls out of the crib
or has to be driven to soccer practice.
Sometimes you make notes or sign permission slips in crayon.
It's all that's handy. The emotional and behavioral changes sneak
up on you. The way you can't watch CSI or any show with stories
about children who are missing, sick or even worse - scenarios you
won't allow yourself to consider.
You start collecting box tops and yogurt lids like they're
currency. You learn the names of all the dinosaurs and monster
trucks. You wash and recycle plastic sandwich bags (yes, really).
You really do cry over kid art. It's not pretend because your kids
are watching. You're not putting on a show. (You wondered about
that before you had kids.) This is the stuff of tears.
You grab handfuls of napkins for everyone and stash them in your
glove compartment just in case. You hold out your arm to stop the
imaginary kid in the passenger seat when you have to slam on your
You'd really rather be nowhere else in the world than being cozy
together, eating snacks and watching Tangled for the 7th time.
You'll run out to the bus stop with bed head and flannel PJ
pants just to be sure your kid doesn't forget her permission slip
or sack lunch. You ran through your son's test questions on the
Revolutionary War so many times together you could probably write a
book, or at the very least a blog. You cried so hard when a
friend's daughter left for college you thought you'd
You have become your mother, my friend. We have become our
mothers. And can you think of anything better? For her flaws, for
your flaws, you are doing what she taught you . . . plus more, and
less and all the things you improvise in between.
You have gotten past being mad at her for the things she didn't
do, overdid or had no idea mattered. And if you didn't, you're
fully aware that now is the time to make your life the way you want
it to be. It's up to you.
You are there for your kids in
your way. Doing the best you can. You make a mother proud.
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